Arethinn aTinderel

@arethinn

she/her (sidhe/her ha ha)

Dawnstar

California https://www.mythsong.net Joined June 2026

Mmm, okay, fair enough. Personally I don't often get it much in the sense of "okay, I will do this normal thing ... ohhh yeah no wait I can't" but I guess by now I'm pretty used to what "normal things" I can't actually do, so I rarely "try" in the first place.

I don't know if this is something that needs "help" unless it is distressing you or interfering with your life in a negative way. The phantom sensation of wings is pretty common with otherkin - fae, angels, dragons, etc.

This article was something moved over from the old Otherkin.net. The internal link ("How to be a hip mystic") goes to an archive.org page with a datestamp in 2005. I'm not sure whether Syleniel even has an account here these days. She does sometimes come into the Otherkin.net Discord chat, tho.

Well, it depends somewhat on whether people subscribe to the activity feeds the site puts out, which clearly at least a couple of us do (although I suppose Jarin as the site admin possibly Sees All, Knows All ;) ). What sort of advice are you seeking?

(Caveat taking any advice from me: I may be an old fruit, but I may not be wise. Go not to the elves for counsel for they shall say both yes and no and be prone to silliness, blah blah blah...)

D\'oh. I was just looking for that feature yesterday (https://www.otherkin.net/2017/12/sdgdgsdgddgsdgssdgsdg/ looked to me like junk, although I suppose it\'s possible it was that person testing how to do something). I was really confused when I couldn\'t find where to click to report.

I gotta agree with them, though, that whoever actually designed the icons that go in that library, I mean, ugh. Changing the default icon was the very first thing I did too (and I think the first/only status update I\'ve ever posted here is to say \"AUGH WHAT IS THAT\", heh).

Generally it looks fine, although I don\'t see any real difference in look and feel compared to Wordpress.

I think you\'ll want to either change the size of the banner, or make the background behind it black or some kind of green, or something. The black rectangle in the middle of blue looks kind of odd.

I have a bogus friend request notification in the top toolbar. It shows a red circled \"1\" but when I click it, the actual Friend Requests page says I have none (as I would expect).

I can\'t upload an avatar. When I click Edit Avatar, the text on the page saying \"Upload a new avatar\" is not a link and there\'s no buttons. (might be as intended for now?)

Not sure about use of the term \"Blogs\". Why not \"Articles\", like on the Wordpress version? \"Blogs\" seems misleading, unless you really want people to start adding personal blog/journal posts, which doesn\'t seem to match what\'s currently in that section. (especially I would not love to see a bunch of twitter-sized posts... although that is probably unlikely given general levels of traffic :P ) Is it possible to have a separate section for the stuff that is really *articles* rather than blending it together?

I would like some more obvious labeling that the Chat link goes to Discord. I was expecting a Javascript chat module or something. (I can see why you want direct traffic to the existing Discord chat rather than having some kind of little Javascript box here, it was just a surprise since it wasn\'t labeled that way.)

I\'m uneasy about the idea of a Leaderboard. I\'m not sure whether it\'s more likely to inspire real content or spam/frivolous posting.

Is Settings > Configure your tools > Activity Tabs supposed to do anything yet? It looks blank. Also, if I try to get there by clicking \"Configure Activity Tabs\" from the Activity page, it attempts to go to testing.dreamhart. org/settings/plugins/arethinn but I just get the base settings page testing.dreamhart. org/settings/user/arethinn. (Should maybe be testing.dreamhart. org/settings/plugins/arethinn/mt_activity_tabs ?)

(sorry for the munged links, but the form kept telling me \"You have posted too many links\")

Hrrrm, well. I don't think you're going to find a lot of acceptance for physical shifting here, either.

I'm not sure what Shiro might have precisely meant by "The country’s laws doesn’t apply to kinmunity". You would need to provide more context. But if it was as regards "free speech", that only means the government is not allowed to restrict you. Most online communities are ultimately private spaces, and whoever owns it can decide what speech is and is not allowed.

forum.otherkinphenomena.org {otherkin} {boards are mostly private; unknown if active or not}

Not very active. There are occasional posts that are not me announcing meetups.

http://www.embracingmystery.org {otherkin & metaphysical} {seems abandoned}

Not abandoned at all. But again, not very active and a fair amount of the traffic is my meetup announcements.

I don\'t think there really are any anymore. Kinmunity is the one people tell me actually has activity these days (I\'m not a member) so if that\'s out, I dunno what to say. Werelist possibly, but I\'m not a member there either since as fae I figure I would be out of place. Otherkin Community used to be the most active one I personally am a member of, but Clodaus seems to have intent to close it down (though that hasn\'t actually manifested in the, uhh, five or six months since he announced it), and in any case posting there is barely a trickle, a lot of which is me announcing the SF Bay meetups every month. Same story for Embracing Mystery and Otherkin Phenomena, for the Otherkin communities on LJ and DW, Otherkin_haven on DW, any Yahoo group I can think of, and Elfinkind Digest (though it still exists). I fear the days of active online groups that are asynchronous (vs. Discord chats that everyone seems to be into these days) may be over, indeed have been for a while.